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We Are The Church
Lesson 3: Leading and Learning

Below you will find the full curriculum for Lesson 3 of We Are The Church. Every lesson of this curriculum begins with an opening prayer and reflection followed by a mix of games, activities, and bible study. Each lesson ends with a closing discussion and prayer.

Along with the curriculum below we also have resources that have been specifically designed for those leading the curriculum. Click the button below to review those resources.


Opening Prayer and Reflection

Lesson 3

Supplies: Candle  (optional)

Start you day/time together by reflecting on the questions below. These questions are suggestions but feel free to come up with your own questions to start off your time together

·  What is something you are excited to do today?

·  What is one thing you are thankful for today?

Come up with one silly question to start you day. Example: If you could have lunch with one person, dead or alive, who would it be?

* To mark this as a time set apart from the usual hustle and bustle, you may want to light a candle. (In the church we use candles to symbolize the presence of the Holy Spirit)


Make a List

Activity #1

Supplies: Pen and Piece of Paper

First Make a list of all the things that you can think of that need to get done at a church. Try and list as many as you can think of. Once you have the list order the items from most important to least important. 

After making this list spend some time talking about who is responsible for each job on the list. Some of them might have multiple people or even non-paid persons responsible for them. 


Scripture Reading

Acts 16:11-15,40 (CEB)

We sailed from Troas straight for Samothrace and came to Neapolis the following day. From there we went to Philippi, a city of Macedonia’s first district and a Roman colony. We stayed in that city several days. On the Sabbath we went outside the city gate to the riverbank, where we thought there might be a place for prayer. We sat down and began to talk with the women who had gathered. One of those women was Lydia, a Gentile God-worshipper from the city of Thyatira, a dealer in purple cloth. As she listened, the Lord enabled her to embrace Paul’s message. Once she and her household were baptized, she urged, “Now that you have decided that I am a believer in the Lord, come and stay in my house.” And she persuaded us.

Paul and Silas left the prison and made their way to Lydia’s house where they encouraged the brothers and sisters. Then they left Philippi.


Discussion Questions

●  Who are the leaders in this story?

●  Who does Lydia follow?

●  Who is Lydia leading?

●  How does Lydia lead?


Digging Deeper Questions


  • Who are leaders in your own community?

  • What words would you use to describe leaders in your community?

  • Who are leaders in your church?

  • How do leaders serve others?


  • How does Lydia’s home become useful for ministry?

  • What kind of leadership skills do you see in Lydia?

  • Has your home ever been a place where people gather?

  • What does it mean for Lydia to open her home to Paul and Silas and for the

  • church?

  • What does it feel like to open your home up to other people?

  • Besides opening up your home, what are other simple ways to be a leader?


  • Upon Lydia’s baptism, she opens her doors to fellow believers to gather. How do you have an open door for ministry in your home? School? Work? Community?

  • How do you see Lydia living out her call to lead in her faith community through her prayers, presence, gifts, service and witness?

  • How do we live out our call to lead in our faith communities through our prayers, presence, gifts, service and witness?


Leadership Crest

Activity #2

Supplies: Paper and art supplies

Some people might not have a family crest, but most people know what they are: a visual representation of that clan’s strengths. It’s something that explains the family. We can apply that same idea to leadership. We are going to make a crest that represents the values, beliefs and ideas of a great leader.

First, draw a crest or download and print one by clicking here. We are going to fill in each section with one of these four things:

  • Leadership Attributes you have

  • Values that are important to  you

  • Places you have led in the past

  • Places where you could lead in the future

Discussion Questions

Which section was easiest?

Does anything there reveal something about you that others might not know?

What other things did you notice about your crest?

* We would love for you to upload your crest to our forums and check out some of the others that have been uploaded there. Click Here to visit our forums!


Being the Church:

Activity #3

Read and discuss these paragraphs on John Wesley

John Wesley developed an international faith movement in a time when tensions between the American Colonies and England were increasing. John was sent to the colonies by a group called the Society for the Propagation of the Gospel, which emphasized the habits of holiness. However, one of the most important encounters in John Wesley’s spiritual formation came in an unexpected place. While on the voyage to the American continent, the ship John was traveling on came into a terrible storm. He was terrified, but saw that some fellow passengers, members of a religious group called the Moravians, were calm and encouraging, strongly rooted in their faith. He remembered this group when he struggled with his ministry, and it was through continued conversation and worship with the Moravians back in England that John experienced God’s love and grace. In the colonies, John served congregations as an itinerant preacher, traveling from place to place to lead worship, preach, and celebrate the sacraments. This was tiring work and travel. As a result, Wesley encouraged lay leadership and small groups in local communities. These models were started due to the practical needs of a pastor stretched thin, but the smaller groups and more personal leadership ended up providing a flourishing framework for faith and community formation.

John Wesley was a pastor and founder of the United Methodist Churches. When John was a new young minister, he went on a voyage from England to the American colonies (now the United States) to serve a church there. When he started working, things didn’t go so well. John loved God, but he thought that he had to keep a strict set of rules to live out his faith. The church didn’t like this very much, and after struggling and feeling defeated, John went home to England. He was struggling with his faith. One day at church, John’s “heart was strangely warmed” as he realized that his relationship with God was rooted in God’s love and grace. This experience gave John the courage he needed to go back to North America. This time, he pastored

After learning about John Wesley, ask the following questions.

  •   Are there any rules that you have a hard time following?

  •   Are there rules about faith or church that are hard to follow? Why do you think

    we have them?

  •   Do you have any friends or family members who encourage your faith? How do

    they do that?

  •   How do you think encouraging is an important part of leading and serving?

* For an extra activity find a picture of John Wesley and do your best to recreate that picture. When you are done post a picture of your recreation on our forums by Clicking Here!


Closing Discussion and Prayer

Spend some time discussing and reflecting on this lesson and then close with a prayer.

·  Who do you see as the leaders at your church, youth group, school?
·  What are some ways you could lead at your church?

·  What is one thing you learned or enjoyed in this lesson and why?

Things to Remember:

Learning opens us to love and worship God! 

God’s church as God’s kingdom must grow and reach!

Closing Prayer: Loving and Gracious God, help us to remember that we called to be leaders and learners as your church! Amen!